Professional Goal Update #1

I’ve been struggling for the past weeks to find the perfect solution where we could have a house, a second baby not too far apart from our son and where I’d still get to study in what I want. I even made three scenarios and worked out in each of them when I would start school, when my toddler would start kindergarten and when we would be able to have a second baby.

The first scenario is me starting school this September. I like this scenario because it means I would get to start studying what I want sooner. The problem with this scenario is that it would mean that my son would need to go in daycare sooner than what I would have wanted, unless my in-laws accept to babysit him. If they do that, than I would feel more comfortable if I didn’t have too much school hours during the day so that their day isn’t wasted, which would mean it would take 4 years instead of 3 to finish the program. Since I can’t have a baby while in school, it would mean that my son would be about 6 years when he gets a sibling and I don’t want them to be this far apart. It would also mean that I would have to pay for my school and my son’s school at the same time for 2 years.

The second scenario would be for me to wait a year to let us settle in our new home and get back on track financially before adding the costs of school. This scenario pretty much gives the same result as the first scenario. Since my son would be 3 when I would start school, I wouldn’t mind as much his going to daycare so I would be able to do the program in 3 years. It would still mean we would have our second baby way later than what I would like and it would still mean I would be stuck paying for my son’s school and mine at the same time for 2 years.

The last scenario is simply us taking a year to settle then having our second baby. I would wait for the second baby to go to daycare before starting school. I’m thinking it would take about 3 years before the second baby would go in daycare, but depending on the finances it might be sooner if I need to get a full time job for us to be able to live properly.

With all these scenarios I really wanted to go for the first one, but the thing is, the houses are pretty pricey where we want to move. I thought I could find one in our price range where we could afford it with only me working part time, and I found some that looked okay. They weren’t exactly what we wanted, but they were houses we would’ve been able to live in fine until we could renovate to our taste. Sadly, all those houses aren’t in good places. One of them is too far from the city, another one is right next to train tracks and then there’s one that has a farm behind it (we would smell cow poop all summer). All the other houses are either in really bad shape or too pricey; which means scenario number 3 it is.

With scenario number 3 in mind, the plan now is to finish the secretary course I signed up in back in November and get a job in that. I’m hoping I’ll still be able to stay home more than a year with the second baby, but I guess we’ll have to see when we get there.

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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Personal Goal Plan

When I was pregnant, the first thing I wanted to do after giving birth was start working out because I hated my weight. I know it’s weird to say since most of that weight was my son in my belly and I would lose that once I gave birth, but once that was done, I was definitely not satisfied with what I looked like. Sadly, life got in the way and I didn’t get to exercise like I wanted to. Then laziness took over and now, almost two years later, I still haven’t lost a pound; to be more precise, I lost some then gained it back so I’m basically back to the weight I was right after giving birth.

As you all know, last year I did the C25K thing in the hopes that I would keep going and I really wanted to, but then the holidays came around and I started being too busy with work and shopping for gifts and planning how we would spend the holidays to actually do any exercise. I told myself I would start again in January, new year new me mentality, but then I got too depressed about everything. I had to do some cleaning in my head before I could even consider doing anything for my body.

Right now, it’s not completely clean in my head yet, but it’s close enough that I can start exercising again. Now, since it’s been at least 2 months since my last jog, I thought I should start C25K over before thinking of doing more than that. I won’t be updating you every week again like I did the first time, but I will try to give you a monthly update of how it’s going. Those updates are mostly for me, just to motivate me more to actually do what I say I want to do. I already did the first week of C25K and sadly had to take a week off because my brain messiness was taking over again.

I won’t tell you my goal weight, but I will tell you how much I would like to lose. I would like to lose 30 pounds for this summer. I don’t know if it’s realistic or not, but I’ll do my best to lose as much as I can while still being healthy. I would also like to lose the belly pouch I have, if that doesn’t already come with losing weight. This task might be a bit harder than losing weight since I have this belly pouch because of my linea alba being ripped.

About that, I did some research to know if there were exercises I could do to help flatten the belly when your linea alba is ripped and I actually learned what my condition is called! It is called a diastasis recti, and there are exercises that I can do to help flatten the belly, I just need to be careful on how I execute them because it’s basically sit-ups but there’s something I need to do with my belly to make it so it doesn’t stretch the abdomen further. There’s also wall push-ups that I can do while doing this thing with my belly to prevent the muscles from stretching further. It felt really good finally putting a name on my condition and being able to research it to learn more and find out about exercises I can do!

Wish me luck!

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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Passions

A couple weeks ago, I talked about my professional goal and how I had to think about stuff I love that I could turn into passions that could become a job. I think the reason I haven’t had passions is because I’ve just been too lazy to research or pursue any of the things I love to make them a passion. Having that in mind, I thought about the things I love. The few that popped up were Egypt, mythology, books and video games.

  • Egypt: Definitely not something you can turn into a job. I just always loved pyramids, the sphinx and at a certain point in my teenage years I tried to learn how to read hieroglyphs. I don’t know where this love for Egypt came from, but I’ve always had it. Never done much research to actually know many details about it though.
  • Mythology: That love strangely came at the same time as my love for Egypt, even though they’re not really related. From the little bits of research I did, Mythology is related to Greece or at least the Mythology I like. I’ve done a bit of research on that, I even bought a book talking about whose son or daughter is whose. Didn’t get much farther than that. I know the basics about Zeus, Aphrodite and Athena but that’s pretty much it. Again, not really something you can turn into a job.
  • Books: I’ve always loved reading books. I get that love of books from my mom. I spent my 18 years living with her watching her read books. I’ve always been around books and I’ve always loved them. I even love how books smell. I was that kid in school that hated to do book reports only because they forced me to pick a book from their list even though I was already reading one so I had to put aside a book I was really into to read a book that didn’t have such a good story. Just being around books all day would be perfect for me, which is why I thought of being a librarian.
  • Video Games: I love playing video games, but it stops there. Don’t try talking graphics and other technical stuff about video games other than the story because you’ll get me lost. The jobs with the video games that I know about are pretty much just working to create games or be a gamer on Youtube. The first option would be awesome since I love programming (even though I have absolutely no idea how to do it because I didn’t stay long enough in my computer science course), but I’m not sure if I could do that job since I have absolutely no talent in drawing. Being a Youtube Gamer would be the perfect job since I would stay home and play video games all day to make money, but I’ve been trying that out for a while and it’s not taking off so I don’t think I’m fit for that job.

Writing this, I feel like adding passions to my 2015 to-do list. This year, I should research Egypt and Mythology and just get more into the things I love to turn them into passions so I can actually say I know things in depth and not just the basics that pretty much everyone knows. If you want, I can share my findings with you guys! That could be a thing for the Rambling Monday no?

 

You can share your own passions in the comments below!

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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Professional Goal Plan

I started studying in accounting in 2011 or 2012 and never actually finished. I think I didn’t even do ¼ of the course. While studying it I found out it wasn’t actually for me. What made me want to go in this course in the first place was because I was doing a bit of accounting at my job and I enjoyed it a lot. Now that I think back to it, I know what I enjoyed from that part of my job wasn’t the accounting, but the organising that comes with it. So I thought, what’s a quick course I could take that has organising in it and that I can do from home since my baby isn’t in daycare? The only course that popped in my mind was secretary. I did not go far in that. I started the first lesson and quit immediately because it was asking me four places where I would like to work at and I didn’t know what to write! So I thought, I guess this isn’t for me! Then what?

I spent a few days thinking about things and I sadly realized I’m not really passionate about anything. I like some things and love others, but when I see other people talk about their passions, I feel like I somehow don’t love enough those things for them to actually be called a passion; and that thought really saddened me. I’ll get more in detail on passions next week, but for now I’ll just stick with the one I chose. I figured I always loved reading books and loved being around books. I remembered how when I was young my mom would work at my school’s library and I would always help her out. I would even sometimes get taken out of my class so another class could go to the library when my mom was home sick. I don’t know why I haven’t thought of that sooner, but talking about it with my SO and my sister-in-law made me realize I would love to be a librarian or archivist. Just the thought of organizing files or books sounds like heaven to me.

So the first step to get one of those jobs is to study in it. My sister-in-law told me what her friend who’s an archivist studied and I did some research on the course to find out if I could do it from home. Turns out, I can’t and the closest college that gives the course is 3 hours away; and obviously the college is in the big city near where my SO’s parents now live and where I’ve been trying to bury my want to move there. With this course pretty much out of the picture, I had to start thinking of a new plan.

I thought maybe if the library where we live was searching for someone, maybe, just maybe, they wouldn’t mind if I didn’t study in something related to the job. Maybe they’d still take me! So I called and they said they weren’t looking for anyone, so I didn’t get to go far in that path. Right now I’m a bit blocked in my options. I can either try to find out if there’s another library here or try calling libraries near where I would love to move.

I’m yet again stuck on my professional path, but I’ll keep digging in my head trying to find a solution to my problem and try not to depress over it; and keep you guys updated.

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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2015 To-Do List

A lot of things have been happening in my head since the beginning of 2015 and I just needed a week off to re-focus my thoughts in an orderly fashion, which is why I haven’t posted anything last week. I don’t really want to call the list I’ve made for myself New Year’s resolutions because those never actually get done. So I prefer to call this my 2015 to-do list.

First off is my professional life. It is currently a big ol’ mess. I’m currently working about 13 hours a week in a job I really hate, but I keep it because it’s the only thing I can do without putting my son in daycare that pays well enough; and I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to actually work in.

Then in my personal life there are a few things, but I won’t share them all because some of them are too personal for the internet. By now you must all know I hate my body. I’ve made a few posts about it. So my goal for 2015 for my body is to at least lose the belly pouch. At best, I would love to lose about 30 pounds.

Another thing on my to-do list for 2015 is personal, but also linked to the professional point. Ideally we want to buy a house this year, we’re just not sure where. Financially, it would be best to stay in the town we’re in, but I would simply love to move to another city, because the course I’d now like to take is given in that city, not here.

I’ll post more details on each goals as I develop them more in my own head, because right now even though I’ve managed to clean up the main points, the small details are still running around wild in my brain and it’s slowly driving me crazy.

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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Celebrating Christmas 2014

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For Christmas this year we went to my dad’s on the 24th and to a dinner hosted by my aunt on my mom’s side on the 25th.

On Christmas Eve, we went to my dad’s and nothing very exciting happened. We ate some pizza for dinner and then my baby got to open his present from my dad. We decided we didn’t want to sleep at my dad’s so we went back home around 9:30p.m. and set our baby in bed before putting his presents under the tree. Sadly I couldn’t put up his socking because the gift I bought to put in there actually didn’t fit.

On Christmas, we spent the morning watching my son open his presents from us. Luckily he seems to love all of his gifts; especially the little wood blocks and the magnetic letters. Thanks to actually solid blocks, my son is now able to make towers of 6 blocks! I knew he was able to make towers more than 3 blocks high; he just needed blocks that weren’t plush! After a few last minute gifts wrapped, we went to my aunt’s for the family dinner. My baby received many gifts and funnily enough they were all pretty much the same! He got a set of car tracks with little cars from my mom and another one from one of my aunt; which is what he had gotten the day before from my dad! My SO and I were laughing so much. He also got books and a set of plates which are awesome. We left a little earlier than I had planned because my poor baby was exhausted from spending two days in a row without naps. When we got home, we put up Rise of the Guardians to watch while he was eating a snack (because he hadn’t wanted to eat his dinner) and drinking his milk.

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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Finding Gifts For My Toddler

I’ve always had a hard time finding gifts for people. I’m always wondering what they would like or what they would need and hoping they’ll love what I give them. Although I always have a hard time, I feel finding gifts for my son is strangely harder than anyone else. I find it hard because he can’t actually tell me what he would like and since he doesn’t talk I don’t actually know what he enjoys. Thing is, toddlers play with pretty much anything so it shouldn’t be that hard, but I tend to complicate things for myself.

He already has a ton of toys to play with and I know he’s probably going to get a bunch more from his grand-parents and uncles and aunts from both sides of the family, so I thought I would put my attention on toys that teach him stuff toddlers need to learn. For the past 2-3 months I’ve been trying to teach him body parts, shapes, numbers and alphabet. He’s pretty good with body parts, so I ruled that one out. He already has a toy to learn shapes so that one wasn’t an option as well. He started saying “one”, “two” and “four” and recognizes what numbers are, but can’t yet differentiate them, so I thought I’d buy him a toy that teaches numbers! Other than books, I actually couldn’t find much. I bought little wood blocks with letters on them, I think there are numbers on them as well but I’m not sure. As for the alphabet, he knows pretty much nothing about it yet, so I put my main focus on that one, ending up buying some magnetic letters with a thing that says which letter is on it and says how it sounds. We also bought him a huge cube where each side is a different activity, so I hope he enjoys that.

Only a couple more years of trying to pick gifts for my son then, when he’s old enough, he’ll be able to tell me exactly what he wants and I won’t have to think about it at all!

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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How Clothes Change the Way You Feel About Your Body

I used to be one of those girls that stayed skinny no matter what they ate or how much they exercised (which was never for me), until I got pregnant. At first I just thought it was normal for me to take a while to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but once it had been at least three months without a single change, I started working out a bit. Then I learned that my linea alba was ripped and I would have to get my abs back to where they were supposed to be before even having the possibility of slowly losing weight. It actually didn’t take too long for my abs to be back in place; about a month or two. The hard part was actually getting motivated to workout. I’ve never had to workout to have the body I wanted. I have to admit it was a new concept for me.

Thing is, after giving birth I hadn’t wanted to buy clothes because I thought I would be quickly back to my pre-pregnancy weight. When reality hit me that I would actually need clothes that fit this body I hated, I dreaded shopping. I went in the boutiques looking for loose shirts that would hide my belly pouch and my love handles. It was way harder to find than I thought. There were so many shirts I would have loved to by myself and be able to wear proudly, but they just hugged my figure to much for my own taste. Every time I shopped for clothes I would come out empty handed and depressed. It just made me hate my body even more, so I ended up just buying a ton of t-shirts online and wearing them with a zip hoodie.

Last week, I saw a shirt that looked good and loose while I was working. I really wanted to try it out on my day off, so I kept looking if it was still there every day and when Sunday came, I went and tried it out. I picked up another shirt I was pretty sure wouldn’t fit me right because it seemed tight, but I liked it and I felt slightly good about my body that day. I tried on the shirt I had been eyeing all week and I felt horrible in it. It was definitely not fitting on me as well as on the mannequin. On me it just made me look way fatter. I hated it. I was ready to just call it quits, not even trying out the second shirt I had picked up, when the sales woman came and made a suggestion.

She asked me what I thought I would wear with the other shirt. I said probably jeans since it’s the only kind of pants I own. She suggested a pair of leggings, but not just any leggings. She suggested a pair of leggings that go almost up to your breasts and that hides your belly pouch and your love handles! I actually used to think those types of clothing were so dumb, but I told her I could always try it out. She warned me it would be hard to put on, but it was normal. So I struggled to put the leggings on then put on the second shirt. I felt so weird having pants come up so high. It was way higher than the elastic of pregnancy jeans. I got out of the cabin and looked at myself in the mirror. I was looking at the old me. Well almost. I was looking at a me that had put on a bit of weight, but didn’t have any love handles and had barely a belly pouch! I almost had tears in my eyes seeing myself like that. It just felt so good to actually love myself in an outfit.

I can honestly say now I understand why people would wear those undergarments that put your figure in check. It’s not necessarily a beauty thing. Sometimes it’s just what it takes to give you back a bit of self-confidence; and that’s what the leggings did to me. I got out of the boutique with a pair of leggings I hadn’t planned on buying, a shirt I never thought I would wear again and a heart full of happiness.

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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NaNoWriMo

I learned about National Novel Writting Month (NaNoWriMo) through Dodger at the beginning of November. NaNoWriMo is a little non-profit organization where they create programs to help people get inspired to write. You can learn more about them here. The concept of NaNoWriMo is to spend September and October planning your novel and write a 50 000 word novel in November. Those that achieve the 50 000 word minimum by November 30th at 11:59pm got access to the winners page. Then there’s the “Now What?” months. During January and February they help you with the revision and publishing stages of creating a novel.

As I said, I learned about this program in the beginning of November. Sadly, I didn’t feel like I could accomplish the 50 000 words. I’ve tried so many times to write novels and always failed, so I thought this time wouldn’t be any different. But Dodger kept posting about it and how she was going to write that day and it made me want to write again. So I signed up on the 17th (completely free, but you can donate). I already had an idea in my head that I’d been pondering since summer, but never found the courage to put it in words. I started writing the prologue. I was amazed at the fact that in only a few minutes I had written 352 words! Not a lot if you think that I still had 49 648 words to go in 13 days, but I was still proud of myself for at least starting.

I told myself I at least wanted to write every day. Even though it was just a couple words, I wanted to at least dedicate some time during my day to write a bit. And I did. I started getting so involved in the story that I had new ideas while in the shower and just couldn’t wait to write them down! On day 23 I had 1 477 words written. Sadly, some stuff happened in my life and I started feeling like crap after that day, which made me feel like a failure. I knew going in this that I would never reach the 50 000 words, but I told myself it could at least motivate me enough to actually finish a novel, even if I don’t finish it by the end of November. But with my super brain deciding to make me feel like crap, it told me that I was a failure for not writing more and so I completely stopped.

I feel really bad with myself because I feel like I gave up so easily. I would’ve loved to at least reach 5 000 by the end of the month! Apparently that wasn’t in the cards for me. But I’m not giving up this time. I feel motivated again to write, and I will write. Even if it takes me a year to finish it, I will finish this novel. I want to be proud of myself again.

 

What’s a project you really want to finish someday?

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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Decorating the Christmas Tree

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I decorated the Christmas tree alone this year because of many reasons. My plan at first was to decorate it the night of the 30th November so that my toddler would wake up on the 1st of December and see a Christmas tree appeared during the night, but then I thought how my SO would want to see his reaction (if he has any) but would be at work. So I thought of decorating the tree during the night of the 29th, but we went out with some friends and when we came back and the baby was finally asleep, I just didn’t feel like it anymore. I was too tired from our day. I finally decided we would forget the morning reaction and just decorate the tree during my toddler’s afternoon nap and settle for an evening reaction. But then, my SO had to go to work because they’re asking them to do crazy overtime. So I ended up decorating the tree on my own while my son was napping.

Decorating this year wasn’t much of a struggle. I needed to think about how my son is now able to reach really high so he would be able to play with the things I put in the tree. I decided the most dangerous thing that I put in the tree was the garland because if he somehow managed to get it out of the tree he could wrap it around his neck. So I tried keeping it out of reach as much as possible. As for the Christmas balls, they’re not breakable and they’re held in the tree by a string so it’s not a big deal if he plays with them. I just made sure not to put the ones with glitter on to prevent glitter going on my toddler’s hands and everywhere else if he plays with them.

Overall I think I did a good job of “baby proofing” my Christmas tree. I did buy two new ornaments for my SO and I because I can’t resist having figurines of characters we like in our tree. Last year I bought a Yoda ornament and this year I bought a R2D2 one and a Belle one. It’s going to be a weird mix of Star Wars, Princesses and traditional gold and red decorations, but at least it screams us 😀

 

Until Next Time!

Young Mom ❤


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