I was raised with my mother being a stay at home mom, and I’ve always imagined being able to do the same thing. Sadly, you can’t do that nowadays if you want a house; at least not where I live. At first, I was planning on only working weekends until my baby was three years old. Then my SO started saying that three years old was a bit of a stretch if we wanted a house, so I told him I would start putting Baby in daycare slowly starting at two and a half years old so that I could work full time by the time he was three. Then reality hit me and I realised we didn’t have the finances to do that, especially if we wanted a house before the next baby; which we’re trying to plan to have when Baby is two. So now I have to start thinking about putting my son in daycare so I can work full time before getting pregnant again.
Since I had some money put aside, I was able to take my time and figure out when I actually needed to start working again. In the year we started talking about having a baby, I managed to put aside enough money to last at least a year if need be. I kept putting a bit aside while I was on maternity leave to make sure I had enough since now I knew how much a baby actually cost. Sadly, because of the stupid government, I crashed in a wall of payments due (because they decided they spent half a year giving me too much) and it drained my savings. I started stressing about money and trying to find a weekend job, and I almost fell in depression because of it.
I felt pressured from every sides of my family. I kept imagining they thought I was lazy and only not getting a job because I didn’t want to work. I also felt pressured by my SO because I knew he wanted a house before a baby, and I felt like I pushed him to have a baby sooner then he planned because I wanted us to be able to have the possibility of having three kids before our 30s; and now the house was out of the question since I didn’t have any money coming in. It was a very horrible month before I finally found a job. A job that only took away half of the stress.
Now I have a paycheck of 9 hours a week. The stress of not having money coming in is gone, but the stress of having enough money to buy a house is still there. I’m not sure my paycheck is enough for us to have a comfortable life with a house. I know I probably should get a full time job, but I’m not ready yet. I would love to get a full time job, don’t get me wrong. There are so many offers that I would love to apply to, but I just don’t feel ready to put my baby in daycare. But that’s another story.
What I’m trying to say is: it’s a shame both parents need to work full time jobs for them to have a house and a family. Of course, there’s always the option of the dad or the mom getting at least two jobs while the other stays at home, but then the parent that works will never see his kids. It’s a sad world where you have to pay someone else to take care of your child so you can have a paycheck to pay for a roof on your head.
Until Next Time!
Young Mom ❤